In a Worldwide Pandemic,
We Need to Know Our Ikigai.

Our health care professionals are living grueling, dangerous days, 
battling COVID19 and saving lives. 
No question about it: they have purpose, motivation, goals, ikigai. 

But some of us have been retired or furloughed from jobs. 
Home isolation has been our venue ... for weeks. 

So what's your purpose every day?

• Are all of the long-untouched boxes in your closets and attics sorted or trashed?
• Has every last one of the board games been played and your second 1,000 piece puzzle is now on the table?
• Have you read all the books stacked on your night stand?
• Is laundry at a minimum as no one is changing clothes regularly?
• Has the dog been walked ... and walked again to the point of exhaustion?

These are times that try the spirits of the hardiest among us.

Without an ikigai, our days can be empty and meaningless.

"A reason to get out of bed in the morning ... something that makes life worth living" is a rough translation of the Japanese word "ikigai." The French call it "raison d'etre." In America, thanks to Rick Warren's book, we call it The Purpose-Driven Life.

The extra time and the isolation may have you wondering, "What on earth am I here for?" Days are passing without marker events to delineate them and often without any motivation. A life without purpose is an empty life. "It's motion without meaning, activity without direction, and events without reason" (Warren).

National Geographic ran a story in 2005 on areas of the world with the greatest longevity. Okinawa, Japan, had one of the highest concentrations of people over 100-years-old. The demographic study revealed that one of the top life style reasons for their longevity was the individual's sense of life purpose, their ikigai.

So what's your ikigai?

What's your reason for getting out of bed during these days of isolation? To enrich the lives of your  children? To improve some else's life? To foster closer family relationships? To serve a neighbor? Purposes that look beyond ourselves to those around us may not increase our bank accounts or even our own pleasure, but they are life's most rewarding goals ... fulfilling reasons for living.

When we reach the end of our days and people look back on our lives, will we be remembered because we did everything we could to make ourselves happy or because the primary goal of our lives was to bring help and joy into the lives of others and, in so doing, to serve God?

God often works in paradigms. When we set serving others as our ikigai, the joy of giving comes right back on us.

"For such a time as this" was the reason given for Queen Esther's appearance before the king in order to save her people.  Even though precedent and history assured her she would probably be killed, Esther chose to sacrifice herself, if necessary, for the good of her people.

Perhaps it is "for such a time as this" that we are living COVID19. Our lives are not demanded of us, as they may be for some health care workers, but "purpose" certainly is. When we get out of bed each day, let's creatively imagine what we can do from our isolation to make life a bit better for someone else.

HERE ARE A FEW IDEAS THAT CAN CHANGE SOMEONE'S DAY DURING THIS ISOLATION:

•  Offer to make a prescription or grocery run for the elderly or handicapped in your neighborhood or social circle. Do they have any spring yard chores you could do to help?

• Cards or notes are a welcome sight when we open the mailbox. Even with texting and emailing, a card can go a long way to brighten someone's day. Send lots. You have time, and you can usually order stamps directly with your postal carrier. There's something delightful about a card in the mailbox that lightens spirits.

• Let your kitchen be a boon to someone: bake cookies, make soup, or a casserole. How fun leaving a treat on someone's porch or in some safe place. No need to even go to the door ... just text them, "Check your porch."

• The local hardware and garden stores have drive- through service. Pick up a few spring plants and leave them at the doors of a few people you want to encourage.

• Call friends, relatives, neighbors regularly. Some people who live alone may not have anyone checking in on them.

• Make face masks for a nursing home, a clinic, friends.   
  
  

• Donate to a local food bank or another organization that helps the needy. 

• Give a grocery store gift card to a needy family.

• Tip a grocery store worker or any one of our "necessary" helpers for serving you.

• Order a pizza or take-out meal from a local restaurant for someone.

• ZOOM out-of-town family members.

Cultivating my ikigai ...

On Layton.

What To Do During the 

COVID-19 Quarantine 

Options are shrinking. 
Schools, churches, libraries, and some restaurants are closed. All sporting events and large gatherings  cancelled.  A Harvard doctor released a medical prescription for extreme social distancing. We need to get comfortable in our own skin without social contacts. So, what will you do? Certainly, taking a walk or playing board games with the family are good options for quarantine downtime. You might even start the yard work or do your spring cleaning. But ... here's a better suggestion: 

read a book.

In 2019 AARP (American Association of Retired People) published this information:  "A study of 3,635 older adults found that book readers had a 23 month survival advantage and 20 percent lower mortality risk compared with nonreaders. Reading was protective regardless of gender, education or health."

I'm not suggesting that reading a book will prevent contracting this dangerous illness. I am suggesting that there are long range benefits and, certainly, short term comforts to indulging in a book if you are self-quarantined.

Books have been a personal joy since I discovered the Nancy Drew mystery series when I was 11. My summers were spent on the front porch glider reading through The Sign of the Twisted Candles, The Hidden Staircase, and The Secret in the Old Attic, etc. Books have helped me escape  for almost six decades.

Pa Jones and Nana Jones,
my reading mentor.

In fact, I still read on my grandmother's old porch glider on  summer days. Nana Jones was a glider-reader, too. In fact, she eventually gave me her glider, an iron monstrosity over 50 years old, full of creaks and squeaks like its former and current owners. She also gave me her love for reading and many good conversations about books.

Nana Jones' glider has been
 a staple on two Layton
front porches for over
50 years.

Memories of my grandmother center on that shared love.

When I reached my junior year of college, I still had not declared a major, college being a fun social experience. With only four semesters left, it was time to make a life plan. Dad's advice, "What do you like doing the most? Make that your major." Well, truth is, I just loved sitting on the glider ... reading. So I became an English major, the closest major I could find to reading books. 

The problem was - in 1969-70 journalism, writing, human resources, all the wonderful things you can do today with an English major, did not seem to be viable, paycheck-producing options. No glider-reading 300 level course in the curriculum, I scrambled to take the education classes I would need to become an English teacher and squeeze in student teaching in the Marple Newtown School District outside of Philadelphia before graduation..

Lakeland High School Reading Club. Students
committed to read 40 books as a team for the
NEIU Reading Olympics. Principal J. Hanni,
teachers Mrs. Salitsky, Mrs. Stephens, Miss Love,
Mrs. Walczak

God knew I was bumbling through growing up. Thankfully, He directed me to a satisfying English teaching career that lasted over 31 years. Peopled with a marvelous array of students, colleagues, and administrators, life was challenging, exciting, and never the same two days in a row. My greatest satisfaction? The joy of reading to my students, stories by Kipling, O. Henry, and Poe and books by London, Dickens, and Twain. Seeing my students fall in love with books on their own was the ultimate satisfaction. Our reading team devoured books every year to participate in the local Reading Olympics competition. Like Nana Jones and me, the students have a life gift that will carry them through old age and quarantines. Reading stories and discussing books - only God could have prepared a career to fit my desires and pleassures so well. 

After retirement, a  friend suggested we start a book club. Since 2011 our club of 4-6 women has met faithfully once a month. We've read over 100 books. Someone in the group picks a book for

A discussion leader's illustration
from A Prayer for Owen Meany

discussion, and we come back the next month ready to rip it or praise it. 

Christmas discussion, perhaps, of David Baldacci's
The Christmas Train

Our everyday conversations have been lifted from the kids, food, chit chat, the latest sales, or  health to intelligent, challenging discussions involving topics like war (Jewish oppression in the Warsaw ghetto), survival and success against odds (Trevor Noah), leprosy (Molokai), and abuse (Before We Were Yours). Many of the books I've loved; some I never would have chosen, but every one has expanded my view of our culture and our world and provided boundless food for thought and conversation. Sometimes, the discussion leader even brings a food mentioned in the book ... who doesn't love that! Always, the leader provides added information about the author or the subject.

Recently, we read Christina's World, based on a famous painting by Andrew Wyeth. The discussion leader shared biographical info on Wyeth and Christina as well as additional pictures painted of Christina and her home.

Thus, as an advocate of books, I thought you might like to see our suggestions for your quarantine. These are the club's Top Ten Picks from the 33 books we have read in the past 3 years. (Each month we rate the books on a 0-10 scale, subjectively based on theme, writing style, literary elements like plot and characterizations, or simply our personal preferences).

Our Top Ten Book Club Picks (2017-2019)

1. Molokai, Brennert

2. The Book Woman of Troublesome Creek, Richardson

3. A Gentleman in Moscow, Towles

4. We Were the Lucky Ones, Hunter

5. The Zookeeper's Wife, Ackerman

6. The Nightingale, Hannah

7. My Sister's Keeper, Picoult

8. House Rules, Picoult

9. The Sun Does Shine, Hinton

10. Before We Were Yours, Wingate

Other Personal Favorites from Our Book Club

1. Unbroken, Hillenbrand
2. The Invisible Wall, Bernstein
3. The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks, Skloot
4. Mountains Beyond Mountains, Kidder
5. Bury My Heart at Wounded Knee, Brown
6. David and Goliath, Gladwell
7. America: The Summer of 1927, Bryson
8. Shakespeare Saved My Life, Bates
9. The Boys in the Boat, Brown
10. Being Mortal, Gawande
11. A Prayer for Owen Meany, Irving
12. Gilead, Robinson
13. The Glass Castle, Walls
14. Hillbilly Elegy, Vance

For next month's discussion, we are reading Colson Whitehead's blockbuster The Underground Railroad, an intense, powerful book rampant with revelations, horrors, and relevance to our world today.

Books can be life changers. In The Book Woman of Troublesome Creek, the blue woman says of another character, "I loved the way Harriet loved her books. It changed her into something different, better, and for a minute I forgot who she was - and who I wasn't."  

No discussion of books would be complete without mention of the most powerful book. Divinely authored, imparting truths for life and living, withstanding the test of time and authenticity, providing comfort in heartache and fear, gifting us with grace, mercy, and hope in the face of disaster and death ... the Bible, God's Word, stands above all other books. Its 66 books, written by 40 writers over the course of  1,500 years, do the impossible: they weave the identical story of God's grace and love.

I've done enough reading to know this is an impossible human feat. The same theme with complete agreement and the same mission by those 66 writers over centuries? Only God could author such a book. Open it. Read it. Savor the truths. Find encouragement and hope in this time of fear ...

while you quarantine.

 Reading.

On Layton.

How to Recover a Lost Art in 2020

Dear Reader,

A  brown cardboard storage box contains cards, letters, and notes I've received for the past 50 years.

Their messages were kind, or they came from special people. They struck a cord with me for a variety of reasons, and I've never had the heart to get rid of them ... for the past 50 years. The box can no longer contain its bounty!

The recent influx of papers and letters from my  Dad's life combined with mine to fill a good portion of a closet. Time to glean a few and toss the rest.

The result: I've spent hours reading and lost in memories. My grandmother's rounded, neat cursive, wishing me well. Dad's strong, bold handwriting with something humorous to share. Friends, some long gone, remembered by their writing even before I read the name.  Cards from my boys when printing their names was a laudable feat. Every handful or so, there would be one from my mother, a prolific letter writer. Her familiar severe right slant and unclear letters had me rereading and decipthering as her handwriting always did - letters to me at college, in China, from her new home in South Carolina.

I pictured those many hands I loved as they wrote with their arthritis or age spots or broken nails, and I heard their voices come to life on the page.

Finally, I landed on a thank you note from my mother in 1999. A thank you note from my mother! Whatever would the woman who gave me breath and met my needs for the first quarter of my life have to thank me for? But she did ... and I've framed the card, her love, and her unforgettable handwriting.

Today, I answered some email and sent a few texts, but there wasn't  one memorable piece of handwriting among them. No cursive to reflect personhood, nothing worth framing, no picturesque reminders of a hand or a life. Just Times New Roman 12 in featureless black and white.

Perhaps this implies enough about teaching our children cursive in elementary school. Like so many other things, memorable is being sacrificed on the altar of quick, fast, and modern.

For over 30 years my career involved teaching teens grammatical rules and proper writing style. Now, I am flabbergasted when I realize my texts are dashed off with incomplete sentences, without end marks, minus capitals and punctuation. Whatever happened to the Mrs. Walczak of eighth grade English class? Several generations of teenagers must be equally flummoxed about the years they spent learning English grammar that have been blown to the icloud in social media.

Here's a challenge for 2020: let's return to the art of letter and note writing ... even if only once a week. How do we recover this lost art? Simply, do it. Pick a recipient who could use a bit of joy and scratch away. I realize it will cost a postage stamp and a bit of time, but consider it memory making for someone, carving kind words into forever.  A day is brightened, encouragement shared, when the mailbox produces an envelope with your handwriting. The message doesn't have to be so meaningful that it is saved for 50 years, but it can exude friendship and love, poignant enough to frame with your fingerprints and style embossed across its face.

No simpler, less intimidating, more inspiring way to lift someone up.

But the most life-changing letters I've ever received are compiled as epistles from the likes of the Apostles Paul, Peter, James, and John whose goal was to communicate the Word of God. Originally recorded on parchment or sheep skin, they stand witness for eternity to God's everlasting love, and each bears the very handprint of God.

That box of letters I've kept for 50 years? Most of them are still in the box and back in the closet. Who would have the heart to dispose of such memories and kindness? Not me.

Continuing to pen in cursive and
 challenging you to enrich your connectedness ...
 with a letter.

Love,

Your Friend on Layton.  

10 Ways to Make 2020 Matter

The years fly off the calendar any more. Wasn't it just 2017? 

And as the years disappear, so have many people in our lives. 2019 left a hole in our family.

Perhaps it's my perception of the relentless march of time or perhaps it's the loss of people important  to us, but the need to make every year matter seems increasingly necessary.

Maybe I'm just getting old.

But as I look down the next 365 days, I'd like every one to matter. Who knows? Perhaps this year will only have 263. How can we live every day to its maximum potential? Here are some thoughts to consider to make 2020 a year that matters ... 

• Step out of your comfort zone. My living room is my comfort zone. So I need to get off the couch and get out. Do something for the world that requires some courage, some initiative, and a little thinking outside the box. Volunteer to build houses with Habitat for Humanity in West Virginia or teach in a school in Central America or help in a soup kitchen in Scranton. Think out of your neighborhood, out of your socio-cultural milieu, out of the country. Live sacrificially.
• Give ... to the local homeless shelter or food bank, to your church, to a needy single mom.
  
  Give coats, gloves, hats, toiletries, and bedding to organizations like the Women's Resource Center or the Catherine McAuley Center. Give to worthwhile children and teen programs, like CareNet and Youth for Christ. Give your time and energy  to fix a broken door knob for a single woman or babysit for a mother of toddlers or take an older person to the doctor and out to lunch. Selflessness is the key.
• Begin a new friendship with an elderly person in a nursing home or a shut-in on your street, with a foreign university student who needs help with his English or an immigrant mom who is having trouble buying groceries in her new culture, with the children of a single mom, with the new family in the neighborhood.
• Cultivate old friendships. Facebook your college roommate, whom you haven't
  
  seen in 4 decades, and plan a get-together. Skype your cousin in Scotland. Email your high school chums for a lunch date. Seek one-on-one time with your old friends. Maybe meet every week with that one soul sister whose encouragment never fails.
• Use your creativity. Build furniture, write a book,  knit for veterans in the local veterans' hospital, paint your bedroom or a picture, sew a quilt, fix the car, make jewelry, bake. Use your creativity to brighten someone's day.
• Read. A lot. Magazines, newspapers, biographies, novels. Keep challenging your mind
  with information. Join a book club where you can discuss ideas.
• Walk ... in places that draw your heart to reflection and awe and fire your brain with the
  
  grandeur of the Creator God. Walk the beach, walk the woods, walk at the lake. Walk at Lackawanna State Park. The park has 80 miles of trails. My grandson and I have made it our goal to walk all of them together. We've been doing it for 3 years and marking our completed trails on the park map. This year, we'll keep walking. Look up on your trek to the beauty around you.
• Plan family events. Big ones, like Olympic games in the backyard, with the
  
  kids, grandkids, cousins, aunts, and uncles. Include  a campfire and a karaoke competition. Or a camping trip, a day at Knobel's, a raft trip on the Delaware. Do some creative planning so no one will forget that family time. Or small family times, like a movie, a board game, a special themed dinner. Make memories this year with the ones you love.
• Invest in the children of your family. Get down on your knees with those kids or grandkids and play Hot Wheels or baby dolls or pony ranch or whatever they want for an hour - without leaving the room or going for coffee. 
• Get to know God. If you haven't been to church in 50 years, go ... time's running out.
  
  If you have deep soul questions that have never been answered about God, let me know ... I can hook you up with someone who can help. If you've accepted Jesus as your Savior Redeemer, walk more deeply into relationship with Him. If you know Him, heaven is your final destination. Make getting to know God the ultimate goal of your year ... after all, this year may only contain 169 days.

And in everything, give thanks. Grateful living changes attitude and perspective.

Looking to make 2020 a year that matters ...

On Layton.

How about a nap in a pig barn?

Betsy and Beulah, Wyatt's pigs, 2019

The pig barn at the Harford Fair exudes comfort.

At least it does if you've spent four hours walking the fairgrounds. Move over, Betsy and Beulah. Make way for my weary piggies.

Wyatt, Harford Fair, 2019

My grandsons, Wyatt and Mack, have been raising pigs and/or goats for about five years, so I make annual pilgrimages to the fair's pig barn to enjoy the fun of the show.

Pig barn living at the fair is not what I expected. My vision of pig barns is based solely on Charlotte's Web where sweet Charlotte goes to extreme lengths in her webs to keep her friend Wilbur from getting to the fair. Her attempts to derail Wilbur's trip to the fair certainly weren't because of the accommodations.

Sadee at the goat show, 2018

The 4-H children at the fair who maintain the stalls and their animals do an immaculate job. The floors are thick with fresh hay, shoveled out regularly. The bovines recline like hairy mountains, oblivious of the crowds about them, swishing their tails to ward off flies like fat dowagers on a Carolina veranda while emitting ear-splitting squeals if they happen to cross each other's personal space. The pens are even decorated with posters for the competition, bearing the name of the owner, the farm, the pigs' names, and the multi-colored ribbons indicating their prize position. Feng shui even in the pig pen. We congregate around the Gadsden Ridge Farm stall. It's family.

But the real fun is in the ring. The actual show is more interesting than most television sit-coms. The pigs have been hosed down and shined up for their appearance before the judges, and the kids, likewise, wear their best jeans, often a plaid shirt, and sometimes a pair of boots that cost more than a Weber grill.

And bling is the thing ... even in the pig barn. Many of the competitors, kids not pigs, wear wide Western belts embedded with turquoise, crystals, and colorful gems. Some wear flashy necklaces, drawing more attention to the showman than the pig, a good ploy if they have trouble controlling their wayward charges.

The plan is to walk your pig in a circle or a figure eight using a guide whip to gently tap the pig while simultaneously keeping your eyes on the judge with a smile on your face. Something like patting your head and rubbing your tummy ... not so easy. The judge floats around the ring with a clipboard giving points to the showman for poise, posture, control, and personality and to the pig for shoulder width, leg distance, back length, and butt configuration. Muscle vs. fat becomes an issue to which both the hogs and I can relate.

With strength and determination of their own, those pigs become a heavyweight challenge for the strongest-willed teenager. One pig heads for the exit shoot, another refuses to move, one skirts the edge declining to come out in the middle, another wants to run at break-neck speed ... anywhere but here. It's a comedy of errors, and glory goes to the kid who can hold the judge's eye, direct his/her pig, demonstrate control, and keep on smiling.

Considering the comfortable pens, the showy affair, and the bling, the Prodigal Son might never have returned home. His story, like the pigs, might have had a tragic ending.

But most of the hogs who enter the ring through those narrow gates are headed to the auction block by the end of the week to provide hundreds of pounds of chops, ribs, roasts, and bacon. And this would be the reason Charlotte sacrificed her life to save her friend Wilbur.

The pig analogy could also apply to us. Everything that looks good, feels comfortable, and shows well may not be the best thing for us.

"Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it, but small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life and only a few find it." 

Matthew 7:13-14

A sacrifice has been made for us as well. We don't have to be led by the trainer's whip. Unlike the pigs, we can make the choice to follow The Way, God's Way, and avoid destruction. 

The last thing we want to do is fall into lethargy and take a nap in the pig sty when the end looms.

Promises, Promises

"We promise a chicken in every pot and a car in every garage," Presidential campaign 1928.

"Mrs. Walczak, I promise to do all of my homework this quarter," A well-intentioned student.

"I can't promise I'll try, but I'll try to try," Bart Simpson.

Promises, promises.

Promises are only as good as the Promise Maker.

This weekend our family celebrated promises made and promises kept. 

The scene was Charleston, South Carolina, where the War Between the States began, and the North launched a campaign, promising freedom to African American slaves. Promise kept.

I think I would concur with the Marquis de Lafayette, "Charleston is one of the best built, handsomest, and most agreeable cities I have ever seen." A great place for exchanging wedding promises.

Michael and Shayna, July 21, 2019

Our entire clan gathered in Charleston to witness the exchanging of promises between my sister's daughter, Shayna, and her fiance, Michael. The four day action-packed destination wedding included a cruise of Charleston Harbor, yoga on the waterfront, golf, plantation tours, horse and buggy carriage rides, seafood dinners, time at Folly Beach, and a city-wide scavenger hunt when we searched out things like joggling boards and other wedding parties. (I did it all with the six grandkids, and I'm still recovering!)

Charleston ranks second to Las Vegas as destination wedding capital of the US. Who knew? Our hotel, the Belmond, and the city certainly know how to welcome brides, grooms, and their families.

The whirlwind ended on Sunday evening at the Rice Mill. We took our seats on the lenai in the southern heat beside a salt water marsh and oohed and aahed over our red-haired beauty, dressed in lace. The bridesmaid brunch, the late night parties, the packing and moving the family over 700 miles, everything built to a crescendo that night ... the exchanging of promises.

You've been to enough weddings. You know the promises:

 I promise to cherish and keep you ... 

•  when things are great for us and even when the kids are a handful, the house is falling apart, or I lose my job. 
• when we have a comfortable bank account, and we can pay our bills, and when we have nothing but the roof over our heads and a beat-up car. 
•  if you are healthy or if you break your leg or have cancer, and I must care for you daily.
•  when I don't like you sometimes because you have a few annoying habits. 
• as my dearest relationship on earth until we are parted by death. 
• And this is my solemn promise.

Last weekend Shayna and Michael made those promises to each other although not in quite those words. We all witnessed it. Promises are only as good as the Promise Makers, and Shay and Mike have the right stuff for promise keeping: strong moral fiber, impeccable character, and commitment to each other's well-being. They will work hard to keep their promises, no matter what life brings their way. So their journey begins.

But as an observer of the wedding guests, my joy didn't settle only on the two Promise Makers in front of the audience. Among the sons, sisters, brothers, and cousins in attendance, I saw a bevy of strong marriages, all cultivated by commitment to promises. Several couples had faced cancer and heart attacks. Some battled job and financial issues. Many either had run the gauntlet of parenthood or were deep in it. Some had second chances. Among the older guests were years of faithfulness. There was wedding happiness for the newlyweds, but abundant joy for those who had proven it could be done through the tests and trials of life. Promises can be kept.

The tone of the wedding? HOPEFUL.

Our "Me" culture leaves little room for keeping promises if those promises run counter to personal satisfaction and self-concern. Questions of integrity and character are moot in the face of "Do what makes you happy," despite the consequences to those around us, despite the promises we've made. The Almighty "I" becomes the key to decision-making. 

A key question facing individuals today is, "Are we willing to keep our promises?"

Our Charleston wedding, filled with promise keepers, was refreshing, hopeful. The future of our society is planted in the bedrock of such commitment and cultivated by mutual respect and integrity. It's a relationship choice that will make or break our characters, our families, our world.

Thankfully, we've been set a powerful example in our Promise-Keeping God who is faithful. He makes us a plethora of promises and always does what He says. Walking life with Him exudes confidence and strength because we know the One who has our backs will never turn His back on us.

"The Lord is trustworthy in all He promises and faithful in all He does." Psalm 145:13

Rhett Butler said of Charleston in Gone with the Wind, "I'm going back to dignity and grace. I'm going back to Charleston where I belong." 

And we long to go back to a world of dignity and grace ... where promises are kept. Thank you, Shayna and Michael, for a spectacular wedding weekend and for the reminder of hope and joy in promises kept.

Grabbing for the Brass Ring

"I want the white one," Sadee yelled as she headed toward a pony with a gold halter.

"I want one that goes up and down," Claire said as she climbed aboard a black beauty with teeth bared.

"I'm getting one on the edge because I want to grab for the rings!" Mack declared as he picked a noble-looking stallion.

We were on the Grand Carousel at Knoebels' Amusement Park in Elysburg, PA. 

The central attraction of our summer vacation for the last seven years has been a trip to Knoebels for several days of camping and riding. My six grandkids have grown up a bit each summer on the 1913 carousel, one of the largest in the world and voted #1 "Best of the Best" in amusement history by Golden Ticket Awards for the past 17 years. 

The children's all-day wrist bands allow limitless rides, but the rider gets off after each ride, stands back in line where there is time to survey the herd, and boards again to choose another from the stable of 63 handsome horses.

The Grand Carousel Organ sets the tone. The old pipe organ plays what has been called some of "the happiest music on earth," with clashing cymbals, beating drums, bells, and trumpets. Much of the music is from an era long before my grandchildren. It's Sousa and Goodman, not Gaga and Underwood.

Sadee on Knoebels' Carousel, Summer 2019

As they've grown and taken on amusement park sophistication, the older grandkids have skipped the Carousel until later in their day and headed, first of all, to the Phoenix and the Twister to get their fill of roller coaster terror. But there has been a steady stream of younger children in the family who head directly to the very center of the park and its piece de resistance, the park's Grand Dame, the Carousel. We've been to Disney World, and Walt certainly has created a massive entertainment kingdom, but the joy of Knoebel's Park and the Grand Carousel are magnets for us.

One thing always draws the older ones back to the Carousel after they get their fill of hair-raising coasters: grabbing the rings.

To grab the brass rings, they have to sit on the outside rim of the merry-go-round. When the ride begins, a metal arm starts to dispense brass rings. The rider hopes the rise and fall of his horse will coincide with reaching the ring dispenser. There's a significant physical stretch involved as they lean precipitously off their horses. Sometimes they can grab the rings, and sometimes they grab air. The game is to see who can grab the largest number of rings. I've given up the reach for rings ... too many variables that might leave me in an embarrassing position on the floor.

Every year when I choose my horse and begin the musical loops, I think about the metaphor of this classic amusement ride. For what rings am I reaching? Am I trying to give my life significance by grabbing for all kinds of rings? 

Grabbing the brass ring is a cultural goal in America. We are on our horses and striving - for a bigger house, a second house, money, possessions, vacations, wardrobes, "bucket-list" experiences. Success is gauged by the rings we have accumulated. Grab what you can while still riding high. Don't fall off the merry-go-round. Aim to get more rings than the other game players. 

Those rings we've grabbed - are they an indicator of our significance, our purposeful lives, or our lasting satisfaction?

Exhausting. Fleeting. We're spinning endlessly, loop after loop of striving to put value in and on our lives. When in reality, it's all pretty temporary, a blink of the eye, passing pleasure, impermanence. 

Is there one, true brass ring for which we should be grabbing?

The Bible is clear - a relationship with the One True and Living God is the brass ring. Believe His promises. Abide daily in Him. Look to the good of others. Walk this life with His desires as the goal of our lives. This is eternity-lasting, untarnishable, brass solid significance.

Life's Grand Carousel of endless circling and grabbing can leave us empty and wanting. God's plan is for our eternal good, not for a temporary pacifier and amusement, a plan that will take us off the dizzying treadmill and galloping into personal fulfillment.

Grab for God's Brass Ring !

"Don't work for what spoils, but for what endures to eternal life, which Jesus gives ... Believe in the One God has sent." (Paraphrase John 6:27-29)
This is God's Brass Ring.